Stand By Your Man or Woman When They Are Having a Bad Day

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  • Author Bellaisa Filippis
  • Published April 22, 2011
  • Word count 440

Bad days are bound to happen to us in our lives whether we are in a relationship or not. We may have had a bad day at work, or maybe someone made us feel bad in our day, either way sometimes we can get so down that it can take us a little while to get back up.

So how does this apply to relationships? Well, in relationships we tend to stand by our man or woman through the good times. We love them when they are happy. We appreciate them when they are kind. We admire them when they are strong. We respect them when they are decent.

But in the bad times it's a different story. We dislike them when they are angry. We make them feel bad when they complain. We look down on them when they are weak. We disrespect them when they are cynical. We essentially pull away our full love when they are not in a positive mood.

The ironic thing is that when our partner is not in a positive mood is when they need our love and support the most. Whether they are feeling down on themselves or feeling down on the world they need a positive influence to support them and help them through the tough time. Yet that's exactly when we pull it away!

One reason we pull away is because it's hard not to take it personally when our partner is upset. We feel as though we have done something to make them feel bad, or we feel like just the sight of us should be enough to make them feel better. But the truth is they are dealing with something internally and it has nothing to do with us.

At this point we need to move past our ego and pride and focus on being positive for them. Recognizing that it has nothing to do with you will help you allow them to work through their issues while maintaining your positive attitude towards them.

Another reason we pull away is because we don't want to feel the negatively coming from them. When our partner is negative it affects our outlook and brings us down. But this is the time to be a strong person for your partner and bring them back up to your positive point of view with that strength.

So next time your partner has a bad day and starts to mope around the house, don't let them bring you down, and don't bring them down any further. Instead try to remain positive, and lend them your support and love to get through their down time.

Bellaisa's website, the relationship circle offers relationship advice tips, articles, and resources for every stage of relationships.

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