So you’ve come to terms with the breakup and realized your ex is the most important person to you and you want her back. However, you’re wondering what you could possibly do to change her mind about leaving you. You want her and you hope she still wants you. Well, you’re not completely out of luck. Fortunately, studies of mistakes other people have made can help you in getting your ex back. Here are three tips that will help you with your plan to get your ex back.

Tip One: Proactive

You know the guy that tailgates you when you’re already going five over the limit and no matter how many times you’ve tried to let him pass he still won’t pass? You know the type… he expects you to move out of his way? Well, you’re the guy doing the tailgating. You are being passive aggressive if you aren’t actively working to get your ex back. Sitting back and letting depression get to you and hoping your ex will just "come around" is never going to work if you want her back. Show her there’s something worth coming back for.

Tip Two: Cut the Calls

You might think that this is contradicting the first tip because if you’re calling you’re being active, right? Well, yes, but you’re being active in the most annoying way possible. You have to start with yourself. You need to give time to your ex so that she can heal, recover, pick her pieces back up or whatever you want to call it. Communication with your ex will only make things worse because you’re not giving her the time she feels she needs.

Tip Three: Remember, Remember

Just because your ex has taken a sudden leave out of your life doesn’t mean your life is over. There are so many people that should be important to you. You have friends and family that care about you and are ready to help you get back into shape to get your ex back.

All it takes to get your ex back is a strategic plan and keeping yourself held together. When you follow these three tips they will help you in your goal.