If you are a victim of domestic violence and want to feel free and try to start again you must be completely sure that's really what you want because otherwise if you regret having left the person who abused you and return with him, only allows the situation becomes more serious than they were before.

When you decided to leave the abusive relationship you should think about an escape plan. That plan can not include leave to live in a house of a close relative or friend. This would involve third parties, in a situation which for them would be very uncomfortable and somewhat dangerous. You should not inform your decision to flee to anyone until you've carried out your plan.

Look ahead

You should look ahead for a new job in a distant city you lived with the person who abused you. You have to act quickly and immediately go to therapy to help you overcome your trauma. The person who least needs to know about your decision is your abuser because he will try by all means to keep you on your side.

Face problems

If you cannot run away or are not able to change you work, the first thing you do is go to court and present evidence of the abuse they are subjected. The judge extended a restraining injunction. This order must have it with you at all times. If the abuser comes near your home or your workplace you can call the police and arrested for violating the judge's order.

If you feel trapped in the relationship for financial matters or do not want to be alone or because you think you love your abuser or not to leave your children without a father, you must understand that these are just excuses to avoid interposing you get rid of the cycle in which are dancing. You have to bear in mind that the abuser will not change. On the contrary, the abuse will gradually increase each day and if the violence continues, you and your children are in danger of death.

Here are four ways to leave an abusive relationship without feeling any guilt:

1. Do not rush to make a decision without first receiving counseling and therapy that will strengthen you to end the relationship. Codependency programs are well-suited to help the victim understand that their feelings by the abuser are not love but an emotional attachment dysfunctional.

2. Looking for legal advice. If you cannot afford to hire an attorney you can introduce yourself in any court and seek a public defender to help you arrange the legal side of child custody, restraining orders, division of property and other legal matters. You go to a family court and state your case.

3. Call toll-free domestic violence but do not get from your phone because your abuser can trace your call. Nor call a cell phone; call your office if you work or a payphone or a friend or relative.

4. Be ready in a package, the documents of your children and your family, such as birth certificates, marriage licenses, personal identification and other documents such as health insurance cards, vaccination certificates of your children and any other valuable documents.

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