When you think about attracting men and winning their hearts you may not think of compliments and using them to your advantage, but I'm here to tell you that if you use compliments the right way you can puff up their manhood and win their affection.

When we give compliments we tend to focus on stuff that we like and admire, which isn't always a good thing. They may not be proud of the fact that they can clean a toilet better than anyone you know - even if you think it's a great thing. If you compliment them on their toilet cleaning skills then you may make them embarrassed, or worse offended. The trick is to turn compliments into something they want to hear and not just something you want to say.

You can tell what makes them swell with pride by watching how they do things or talk about things to you. Things that they are proud of will be noticeable by excitement in their voice, their eyes lighting up, the willingness to keep talking about it, and the passion that they have towards it. And it may not always seem to be something that you would feel good about but it is for them.

For instance, if the man you have your heart on is a millionaire with a corvette and a million dollar house you may think you should compliment his money-making abilities or sense of style, but if he tends to talk about how he loves to cook Italian food and you get the chance to eat that food then compliment him on how good of a cook he is. Chances are that compliment will be better received then telling him is a great business man.

Concentrate on the things he is most proud of and you will always make him feel good. Of course don't ignore his accomplishment of being a great business man, because that is an accomplishment, but he's heard it a thousand times before and the compliments will not affect him like a more personal compliment will.

Another thing to remember when dishing out compliments is that giving him admiration for a recent small victory is more powerful than giving him admiration for a greater, more distant, accomplishment.

That means you should compliment him the moment you find out about his accomplishment if you want to deliver the maximum value of the compliment. Sometimes even waiting a few hours to give him your praise may dwindle the effect it has on him, so don't delay when you see the opportunity!

The only bit of caution with winning his heart this way is to keep it real. Do not tell him what you think he wants to hear when it's not true and do not go overboard with your compliments. If you tell him that he is the most muscular guy you've ever met, and he weighs 140 pounds soaking wet, then you are either going to embarrass him or have him questioning how real your compliments are. Being genuine is the best way to guarantee his constant affection towards you.