When I experienced a split with the lady I love last year, I was annihilated tremendously. All I could think of was "I want my ex back"! I came to realize with time that no matter how badly I wanted to rekindle my past relationship, it wasn't going to occur without some drastic changes on my behalf.

I longed to go back into the past so that I could re-live the instant when she split up with me. I might have handled things differently. Instead of storming off, I should have told her how much she means to me and that I did not want to go. I'd have stopped yelling and instead spoke to her in a manner which she merited. I'm aware that I am currently single due to my own actions and I realize that going back into the past is simply not going to occur. I have to live with the results of my actions.

I've got a superb friend of mine whom I've known since we were twelve years old. He and I have had our shares of difficulties in our lives. He was the first person I thought of to call for advice. He wisely stated to me that unless I relight the fire within my past relationship, there would be no getting back together.

He further explained to me that there are various methods in getting back the individual you adore but the way that we handle ourselves during this trying period of our lives, will determine if we are successful or if we fail. My friend is not a counselor, but I have always taken his advice to heart when it comes to relationships. He's been married for fifteen years and its obvious he knows what he is doing in keeping a marriage together.

A few people downplay breakups while informing you that it simply was not meant to be. This is ridiculous to state to any person considering the impact a breakup can have on your life. Nothing compares to the pain of a broken heart and unless you have experienced it, you will not know how it feels.

My dear friend informed me that if I really loved my ex girlfriend, I shouldn't give up on her. He also recommended that I should focus on myself for a while. This advice was hard to accept because all I wanted to do was beg her back but my friend quickly informed me that begging and pleading is only a temporary fix and I should target the long term affect of my actions, which caused the breakup in the first place.

Unbelievably, I have discovered the negative and positive sides to experiencing a break. I have rediscovered myself and reunited with old friends. I have begun contacting my family more frequently as well as acquired new hobbies. The negative side of course is feeling the loneliness and despair that comes with losing someone you adore.

I will always remember the moment when I finally accepted the relationship was over. I recollect how initially, I tried to remind my ex girlfriend that she did not want the relationship to end. This methodology did not work and she did me a favour in allowing me to accept the truth . Accepting the reality of a split is never easy but when you perform this task, you will finally experience peace with the situation.

I am a guy and it proves a serious blow to my ego to be dumped by anyone. Do I feel better in accepting the breakup? No, I don't nevertheless finding peace with the situation enables me to focus on my inner devils and issues. I know my ex will not want me back until I've made sorely-needed improvements in my life. Do I want my ex back? Of course, I do but first, I want to get my own life back on track.