Once learning your spouse was having a marital affair there were a whole lot of emotions threatening to totally overpower you but to your merit you have been an awful lot stronger than you actually thought. You faced up to your spouse and presented the proof and even managed to control your anger as soon as they admitted to it.

Your mate said they were sorry and promised never to cheat again. You forgave them but told them very forcefully that things need to change and also that you need to see wholesale proof of those changes.

You also mention things you can do to help your spouse as well as alter some things you have been doing. This doesn't mean you are taking the blame but you do accept the fact it will take the two of you to repair the relationship.

Unfortunately at this point in time you happen to be full of dread. The mate is going to be going on a business trip for at least a week.

It is terrible enough you have your doubts as soon as they leave for work or to go to the store but the relatively short time away alleviates most of that. You actually give them a ring at work and they are there. When ever the time has come for them to arrive home they do.

However this traveling for a couple days puts stuff in a totally unique region. Reassurances from your significant other are not helping the situation. Indeed they have made significant progress but that is simply not causing you to feel any better regarding them being out of reach for several days.

You can of course go with your mate. Draw on a few vacation days from your place of work. This might strike you as some form of baby sitting and in all honesty it is. Yet what it also shows is that you are not ready to trust your marriage partner.

Hopefully your significant other can understand this. They may even decide to invite you to go with them. Bear in mind that if they travel regularly it may not always be possible for you to travel with them but in the initial phase after infidelity it could help the two of you immeasurably.

Another possibility would be to create a check in system. You could give them a call as well as vice-versa. When they are attending a conference as an example it may be possible they can forward you the itinerary and you or your significant other can time your calls accordingly. To take it further the two of you could use your cellular phones as a web cam to keep an eye on them. There is also sending text messages.

Does all this strike you as extreme? That's because they are. The moment your partner committed infidelity they took it to this extreme. If they're serious about saving the marriage relationship then there are moments when they're going to need to come to grips with a serious amount of that's the way it goes.