When you think of healthy a happy relationship, it sound like a myth to many that are married. There is actually a big problem in the modern world. The institution of marriage which is sacred and ordained by our creator is threatened. As a person i feel both the parties involved in this institution must come to terms with the reality and save the institution from collapsing.

These calls for both the parties involved to exercise a very high degree of restraint and emotional control. Its not always true that in marriage you will have a healthy a happy relationship but you have to tolerate one another. Marriage is an institution that will so much require the process of give and take to be exercised. Marriage is sweet and very fulfilling if its well managed.

Your partner is human don't expect him or her to behave like the model person who is in your mind. Let us understand that no one born of a human being is perfect, we all make mistakes. Accept that your partner can make mistakes or do things that are not acceptable in your eyes. Exercise a very high degree of restraint. Its only through using the Gods given gift of love that you can have this rare but so much coveted healthy and a happy relationship in your marriage.

According to the teaching of the Bible and the holly Koran. Love is the greatest commandment and by the gift of love you can change your partner through motivation and showing that you love and care. Love can move mountains, believe me! it can perform wonders in the life of a human being. Don't expect your partner to change and behave like your mother or your father, people are deferent in their own ways.

Remember you and your partner come from very deferent backgrounds and bonding with that other person will take time. Communication in your relationship is essential and the key to a healthy and a happy relationship. Talk, listen to one another, share the good and the bad things in your relationships. Open up to one another as much as possible and share the gift of love together. Learn to appreciate the good things that are with your partner and let your partner feel your presence is complementary. Not a bother or a headache. Develop a sense dependence towards one another, This way you feel incomplete when your partner is not with you. Feel part of one another and allow the gift of sex done in the context of love bond you together. This will no doubt bring back the healthy and a happy relationship you used to have before marriage.

Develop a degree of dependence towards your partner. Be more of a friend to your partner than develop the big brother or sister kind of an altitude. Develop a sense of understanding and very high degree of fairness in your relationships,. Do not concentrate so much on the negative side of your partner but turn those weakness into opportunities in your life.

Get time for romance and dedicate time to your partner when you are just the two of you and appreciate the gift of love together. Get time to meditate and remember those days during courtship when you had a healthy and a happy relationship. Ask yourself what went wrong! Every individual is unique in once own right, nobody is like the other, we are all beautifully and wonderfully made. You are special and unique in your own way. See your partner as a unique creation and learn to appreciate and accept the wonderful work that was done by your creator. This way you will be able to appreciate and love one another.