People who are not victims of domestic violence always wonder why women fail to just leave when they are abused. If you get first hand explanation from this women you will understand why they stay put. No amount of abuse can make them change their decision because of social and emotional factors that are more practical. One of the reasons why women stay in abusive relationships is because they fear further violence. If the woman leaves, the abusive relationship may come to an end but the violence continues. The perpetrators of violence have the tendency of tracking them down and abusing them further. A recent research has proved that women who try to leave are usually followed for months and weeks and finally murdered.

Among the serious reasons why women stay in abusive relationships is because of lack of knowledge. The bible says that my people perish because of lack of knowledge. Information is a very important tool especially in relationships. In a relationship, two people from different families live together and it is not as simple as it sounds. Women have limited knowledge about legal and housing rights. Some know about it but have problems in expressing themselves. The language becomes a problem and the responses from the service providers discourage them to open up. Lack of funds and also living in isolated areas inhibit them from getting the appropriate help. Another major reason is economic dependency. Money is the root of all evil. People put up with trash especially if there is money.

A woman might choose to stay in an abusive relationship just because the idea of being a single mother sends a chill of cold blood down her spine. The society has demonized single mothers as people who are not complete and are criticized at any given opportunity. The church will intimidate the woman and her children, the children might be ridiculed at school and the responsibility of raising the children alone might be scary. The woman might lose her job and the legal wrangles concerning finance and property are not any less tasking. Many reasons why women stay in abusive relationships surround the issue of children. They are the major reason women put up with abuse in relationships. They want the best for the children and more so to grow up seeing their father.

Among the reasons why women stay in abusive relationships is isolation. Their partners have made sure that they have created social isolation in their lives. They are separated from sources of any support. They are not close to friends and family so they cannot tell them about their ordeal because of fear of judgement. Another reason has to do with cultural beliefs. They have been brought up to believe that being a wife and a mother is the only good thing. Their culture teaches that divorce is wrong. They often feel emotional confusion. There are conflicting feelings of shame, fear and care for the violent man. They keep on hoping that things will get better. Their self esteem is destroyed and so they don't believe they can do anything on their own.