You can only say you are intimate with your partner if you are yourself with him or her. If you are hiding things from your partner and they do not see you for who you really are, you are not being intimate with them. If you are pretending to be someone else because you know your partner loves people who behave in a certain way then you are not being intimate. Keeping appearances is hard. You are also not lying to your partner alone but also to yourself. You are not being true in the relationship and the best thing you can do is to let your partner go because you cannot truly be intimate with a person who barely knows you or at least thinks they know you while they do not.

Being intimate with your partner is about giving your relationship your all without being selfish in anyway. You cannot say you are intimate with a person if you are selfish with your time and words. You must be able to sacrifice sometime out of your work or comfort zone to do something special for your partner. An intimate person gives their all, they will their partner their time and anything that their partner desires or needs. If this is something that is within your power, you should be able to offer it to them. An intimate person will also try to make up for lost time and make their partners feel wanted and loved.

If you are intimate with your partner you will have a special bond, one that only the two of you understand. Your mate does not have to tell you something. You can almost communicate silently and still understand each other. This is because you have an understanding of each other that can not be compared to other people. You will almost agree to everything and you will have a sense of being one when other people see you. Intimate people also respect each other's opinion because they understand each and understand each other's way of thinking and doing things. Though they might disagree on some things they will agree to disagree.

If you are affectionate and caring to your partner then you can say you are intimate. An intimate person will not do anything to hurt the other person's feeling, they are very considerate. Intimate people also have a deeper connection with each other in terms of love making. Their love making is not the usual kind of love making, it has a deeper meaning and they experience a lot of satisfaction after the act. They also make sure their partner is well taken care of and that their needs are met or at least almost met. You can only be intimate with your partner if you are not scared of loving them and you are not afraid of showing it to them. You should be able to tell your partner exactly what you feel without getting scared that if you aired your opinion they might not like you at all.