You and your ex-husband or wife now live separately, and still remain to be alone. Neither of you have not found another love you want to share the rest of your life with.

Could you, in all honesty, contemplate returning to your estranged partner - acknowledging that you both made mistakes, and did things that you thought were right for both of you at that time with the knowledge you had?

Be honest with yourself. You know each other very well. Could you perhaps give your relationship another chance? Are you willing to forgive each other for the hurt you have caused or have been caused to suffer? Can you put negative actions of your past behind you and move forward and grow?

It is going to be up to one of you to make the first move, and establish contact with your ex husband/wife. Take things very slowly, because there is bound to be trust issues existing where both of you are concerned.

Once contact has been initialized, maybe you could suggest that you meet up over a cup of coffee. Again, take things very slowly. Discuss what has been going on in your life and ask your partner what has been going on in their life.

This meeting is all about making initial contact with your ex. If you feel chatting over coffee is a congenial way to meet up, you may suggest meeting up for coffee, and do it again, a few days down the track.

Act interested in what your ex has to say about what he or she is doing in their life. Maintaining eye contact is a good indication that your ex is interested in what you are saying. And gentlemen, please – watch your manners and pull the seat out for your ex to sit on etc.

It really is a case of going back to dating each other and trying to rekindle something that was once very special to both of you. You have many shared memories and a lot of them good ones. Reflect back on those good times.

Who knows, this could be the start of something wonderful because, time spent apart has enabled you to put things into perspective and you can now concentrate on the things that attracted you to your ex-partner in the first place.