If your girlfriend just broke up with you or your wife told you that she wants a divorce, this article is written for you. For the remainder of this article I'm assuming that you just broke up. If you can bear with me through this article you are more than 80% done saving your relationship. So lets get into it right away!

• Step 1. PUT DOWN THE PHONE! Seriously, I mean it. Do it right now. I know you're probably typing a text message right now. You need to explain the unbearable pain and confusion you are feeling. Your ex needs to understand what they are making you go through.

You need to get away from having contact with your ex right now. That also includes emailing and any other way where you put yourself in the position to make contact with your ex. Anything you say or do at this time is completely influenced by your emotions. You are your own worst enemy and WILL ruin any last chances you had of getting back together if you try to make contact now. Just listen to me, I was there and know how to help you. Go on to step 2.

• Step 2. How to be sad about the break up. You will slowly start feeling as if everything loses its taste and color. Time creeps by with each colorless hour. As men we usually do not just let go of our problems but rather shove it as deep as we can into our subconscious mind to not bother us and remind us of what we lost. This may sound strange, but if you can cry, do it. This is 100% natural. Crying is the natural way of releasing all this cropped-up pain. Otherwise take a few deep breaths to just get yourself connected again with the real world. This is where your problem is and also where we are solving it.

By now you've had a few hours or days to think about the break up and ALL you can think of is your ex. I was remembering everything beautiful about her that I have lost. Her amazing body, how she made me feel SO good when she just rubbed my back for no reason other than she loved me, how I love the way she smells, how she always believed I'm going to be a success, how she... wait a minute, why am I only remembering the positive things? STOP! Yes I know all of these things were there, but truth be told I actually came out of a very abusive relationship. In reality all these nice things were few and far between during the last few months. I remember how I built her up in my head to being flawless, making it the worst loss of my life. Nobody is flawless! It is fine to remember the things you are missing. These are the things you want back after all. But you just broke up, so there were definitely negative things as well. Still, missing her is natural which leads me to step 3.

• Step 3. Realize that you are not the only one feeling this pain. She has not forgotten about you already. I can still remember running into my ex after our break up and she looked better than ever, while my heart was ruined. But here is some INSIDE INFO she shared with me personally after we got back together: Those times were the most painful fake smiles she ever had to put on.

Women handle a break up a lot differently than men. Especially if they were the one who initiated the break up. In most cases, on the outside, it would appear as if your ex has completely moved on after only a couple of days. This in itself is pretty devastating to see, as men then tend to think that the whole relationship probably didn't mean anything to her even though you put your heart and soul into it. How else could she be going on like nothing even happened?!

This is NOT true. She's feeling the pain just as badly. It is just that women are (and has been for thousands of years) the nurturers and care-givers. She HAS to look strong and okay, it's part of who they are naturally wired to be. Just imagine if your mom would lie around crying all day long, not making food or taking care of the children. Everything would fall apart.

Just know that they are missing you just as much. This is good because you can use this to get back with her. Remember, just don't contact her yet, because you now know that she is missing you too. Lets get to the things that will rock her world when she sees you again, go to step 4.

• Step 4. Don't say sorry for the things you didn't do. This will apply to when you will see your ex again. We men have a strange tenancy to say sorry to a woman the moment that she starts getting angry and upset about something. I think it is because we are worried that we might not be getting some action any time soon if she is upset. It also causes fights which just ruin the day completely. I committed this little sin of manliness a lot. As president of the "League Of Manliness", Chuck Norris would be shaking his head if he knew how I tried to sometimes apologize for things I didn't even have a clue about, just to get the peace and love back again. You have to understand that this is a sign of weakness and it will make the woman lose all respect for you. You have to stand through the storm as solid as a rock, which leads me to step 5.

• Step 5. Gain control over your emotions. Neediness is the biggest women repeller on Earth. This includes all 117 elements on the Periodic Table. I love the following definition of neediness, as defined by Swinggcat in his book Real World Seduction**: "Desire without belief is neediness." If you have the desire to get back with your ex but your emotions are all over the place you are going to come off as VERY needy, and what did we just learn about neediness? It's almost surreal how fast you can get them running for the hills if you do not have your emotions and beliefs sorted. Take this time to read books on being a man and dating**. Learn new ways of thinking and get your head sorted out. This is the perfect place to be, as you are now one step away from getting your ex back. Being able to think a little more clearly now will help you make the big decision in step 6.

• Step 6. Analyze the situation and ACT! Do you really want to get back together? I know that this wasn't even a question when you broke up, but if you have followed my advice given so far you will begin to get a clear perspective on your situation. You may have found that it is for the better that you have split up, because you have been freed from abuse you do not have to take. The other side of the story is that you of course might be now surer than ever that you have to get her back. You can see clearly how being needy drove her away. If this is the case I have great news for you!

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