For some women, being dumped can be a difficult thing to deal with. There are so many memories with your ex. Many people know that pride may be wounded but loneliness is hard to take. If you can, keep moving on with your life. If you think there is a need for the both of you to work things out, then it’s time to do what you can to get your ex boyfriend back.

Steps to Get Them Back

Above all else, acknowledge that getting them back isn’t as simple as it sounds. There is much you have to do and putting an honest effort in is necessary if you want the second chance to succeed or you decide that you don’t want to go through with it.

(1) Break off Contact – While it may seem futile to break off contact, this time away gives your ex and you some time to think and miss each other. As crazy as it sounds, it’s the best step of all. Remember how hurt you are feelings. The emotions you have are going to make you feel nuts. When you take the time to sort them out, you can find out how you really feel about your ex.

When you are constantly in one another’s space, it can cause more issues and hard feelings to the point of driving the other person away. Your intentions may be good but it is best to give him the space they need to work on themselves. You also want them to miss you so steer clear of him. With this period of no contact that should last a month, they’ll wonder why they dumped you. They’ll end up missing you. That is what you want.

(2) Appearances – While you give your ex some time to just be alone, start working on your appearance. It will prove your most valuable asset. When you work on both your outward and inward appearances and show your ex that you can move on without them in your life, and then it makes them think, "What have I done?" You may still feel the pain from the breakup but they don’t have to see that.

Try to get yourself as glamorous as possible. You don’t have to be a natural knockout to get your ex’s attention. You just have to find that one or two features that make you look beautiful. It can be fixing your hair, getting a new wardrobe to go along with your fantastic look or getting your teeth whitened should you feel the need. Whatever you need to do to get their attention (without looking like you have done just that) then do it. You want to turns heads so just do it.

(3) Public Mingling – Now that you have the look, get out there with some friends. Hit the clubs, bars and parties. Chances that your ex is among the crowd will be good but remember do not talk with them. You want them to see you having a good time. You may even get him to notice you getting hit on by other guys in the outing. These men can lift up your downed spirits. What better way to rub into your ex’s face than seeing you happy like even when you don’t feel so happy? When he sees you acting happy, he’ll start to wonder why he let you go in the first place. Then his mind will play back what he saw and it’ll make him go nuts. You achieved what you tried to do.

While it may not always work, nine times out of ten, men begin to miss the women they were with. Once in his head, he’ll start thinking about ways to see you again. When that month of no contact has passed, go ahead and talk with him again.

These 3 tips help not only to get your ex boyfriend back but in rebuilding your own self confidence. After all, how can you have confidence in someone else if you don’t have it in yourself first?