Getting married isn't all fun and games. There's a lot of hard work to do before taking the dive. Planning a wedding is not easy and as the groom you're probably going to discover that despite the fact that virtually none of the decisions are yours, you still have to do half the work.

All joking aside, while there are no hard and fast rules to who-does-what when it comes to weddings there are traditions that are somewhat entrenched. The bride is usually responsible for everything that involves the "look" or "theme" of the wedding (wedding reception hall, flowers, wedding invitations, wedding photographer, etc) and very little else. Believe me, those decisions will take her unfathomable amounts of time. I know you're thinking, "How long could it take to pick an invitation out of a book?" but trust me, just let it slide.

Most often, the groom is responsible for:

• Your side of the guest list

• Marriage License

• Arrangements for blood tests (if required)

• Transportation / Limousine

• Music (Band / DJ)

• Toast at the end of Rehearsal Dinner

• Gifts for your Best Man and Groomsmen

• Wedding Night Accomodations (if you're not leaving immediately on Honeymoon)

• The Honeymoon itself

For the marriage license & blood tests you will both need to be there, so make sure you schedule it with your fiance. Take care of this first, as it might be the most difficult to find time for.

Make sure you discuss everything with her and be absolutely clear on who is responsible for doing what. You just might impress her by knowing what you've got to do before she does and being proactive.

Once everything is settled it's time to get to work. Get everything on your list checked off well in advance of the wedding date. You don't want anything hanging over you in the final run up to the wedding and considering how much stress everyone else will be under your best move is to stand ready to put out political fires from inter and intra-family conflicts as they arise.

May you have the best of luck, because you are most certainly going to need every bit of it!