It can be difficult when you have been dumped by the one person who was to stay with you all the time. The pain that occurs from the breakup can be devastating and one of the worst things anyone has to go through. Wanting to get your ex back can take over your life, stopping you from having a life outside the relationship. However, life can go on and you can still win your ex back. You just need to know how to bring him back. Listed below are four tips that can help you achieve this goal.

Be Absent From Their Life – Many people are under the mistaken impression that if they are always with their ex and in that way they can with them back. This occurs when people panic and it is a natural response to a breakup. Actually, the best thing to do is break off any and all contact for about a month. Give yourself and your ex some time alone to figure things out. You could be shocked one day with him coming to you, asking for a second chance.

Avoid Negative Behavior – While drugs and alcohol are good to numb the breakup pain, it’s highly inadvisable. You should stay away and not get involved with negative behaviors for the chances of you doing something stupid increases. You’ll end up calling your ex late in the night, begging for a second chance, wondering what you did wrong and why he left in the first place. Doing this sort of calling only tells them that they did the right thing in breaking up with you. You ultimately are dubbed psycho. You don’t want this kind of label so avoid both negative outlets.

Fix Your Appearance – This is the time to straighten how you look. If you are overweight, have a hair color you can't stand, don’t like the clothes you have or want to smile more, then you need to work these out. By working on your appearance, you work on your self-esteem and the confidence you have in yourself. Not only do you impress yourself but when your ex sees you, he’ll be taking a second look at you too.

Get Social – Now, you have worked on your appearance and your self-esteem. This is the time to get out to the clubs. Take some friends with you to a social happening club or bar. If you can go where the singles are, the chances of you getting attention are better. You don’t have to date any of them or date them seriously but it builds your confidence even further the attention you get. Your ex is liable to hear about your outings and wonder why you aren’t at home, crying over him. He’ll get envy about the attention that you are getting from other men. Thus getting you out of his head will be a lot harder for him. This is especially true if the breakup was just as hard on him as it was on you.

These 4 tips can help you start to bring your ex back. Just remember that once it has been done, then you need to continue working on the relationship. Don’t make the same mistakes twice.