As a man with a previous girlfriend, now finding yourself alone you might ask, "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?" You may be finding yourself depressed and unable to be happy about your life. Perhaps you sit on your couch at night thinking about your past relationship and wondering how you could have done things differently, how you could have kept your girlfriend. Eventually you may get so desperate that you plan on writing a letter or email to your girlfriend with apologies, thinking it may help win her back. Maybe you have yourself convinced that a long apology will work and will resolve the question, "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?"

Sitting around trying to figure out what went wrong is usually a dead end. There is a very important reason for that. The reason is, how can you tell what actually caused your breakup. Women are emotional and many times have no clue themselves as to why they broke up. The may not know what is making them feel the way they do. More than likely you will be wasting your time with an apology letter and trying to figure out why your girlfriend broke up with you. Your energy should be used elsewhere.

When working on an answer to "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?" one of the first things you should do is to forget about your relationship with her. This won’t be easy, but you need to do it. Don’t be shy about going out with friends, having fun and meeting new people, women or otherwise. You should set realistic goals and expand your horizons. Maybe you can better learn how to seduce women and meet people easier. In this first step your main goal is to forget about your ex, and let the situation rest. Take a few months to do this. The changes you undergo will open your eyes and the time away from your ex girlfriend will work miracles. After a few months of rest and making changes in your life you will have a much better plan about getting back with your ex. You will also learn more about relationships overall and how they work.

Some questions you may ask yourself in this time period are, "Do I really want to get back together with my ex?" or "Am I just ready to move on?" If these are the actions you desire than put them into practice and move on. But if you still want to get back together with your ex girlfriend then it is time to figure out how she feels about the situation and about you also.

When trying to get back together with an ex you are going to have to think intelligently about it. You'll need to play your cards right. Begging and constant apologizing will usually not work. You'll need to remove any left over emotions you have and go with a making up plan that really does work. Play things slowly and coolly with her. If she had any feeling for you at all she will be missing you by now, since you should have been out of touch with her for awhile at this point. A goal of yours is to play hard to get, but not so hard that you go overboard. Acting like you are fine with the breakup will really make her think that maybe she is the one who made a mistake.

Over analyzing your breakup will simply mess up any good plans that you have when trying to figure out, "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?" If your relationship is destined to work again and if you use the plans in this article, it will soon be obvious if your plans are going to work. Play it cool, take things slow and don't over think the situation and things should go fine.