Break ups are never easy and getting back together with your girlfriend is even harder. However I'm going to outline to you proven tactics that I used when I was looking for ways to get my ex girlfriend back.

There is a lot of general advice out there on getting a couple back together. However, the steps needed in getting an ex girlfriend back together are very specific and general dating advice on saving a relationship does not always work. In fact, sometimes it can backfire and cause your girlfriend to never take a second look at you again.

First off, stay far away from any advice that says you should be sending your ex girlfriend flowers and pleading to her to get back to you. Most of you know this already, but I just want to make sure because there are sources out there that offer this ridiculous piece of advice, which is sure to make your efforts of getting back together with your former partner fail.

The first thing you should do is clear your head and re-evaluate your situation. Remember- no matter what you have thought before- you are your own man and lead an interesting life. Your girlfriend is not your entire life and you are not dead without her. Make sure you get back out there and socialize with new people. Keep your life entertaining and whatever you do don't mope around and be depressed over your ex-girlfriend. This advice alone will put whoever chooses to follow it 75% more likely to get their ex girlfriend back.

In looking at ways to get my ex girlfriend back, I personally chose the straight forward method. I let her know in a very official manner- through a hand written letter- that I was ready to get back together and would be open to talking with her about getting back together if she was willing to speak about our issues. I left the ball in her court and moved on.

Following this, I knew pressure had to be applied or else she would never have enough motivation to act. Jealousy, whether a good or bad thing, is a necessary component in creating attraction or re-attraction. So I focused on my new social life and let myself be seen with new girls. Of course this was limited and these girls were just friends in my case, but it triggered a sense of pressure for my ex girlfriend and she knew she had to take action soon or I would be gone forever.

She contacted me within a couple of days and said that she wanted to talk to me. I told her that I would only be willing to talk if it was about getting back together, to which she agreed. Using these and other psychological tactics I was able to win my ex girlfriend back and today we are happier than ever.

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