Going through struggles in a relationship is not new. Every relationship goes through these little periods of tough times. After you have fought so much and argued about little things, sometimes petty, you may be asking if saving a relationship like the one you have is worth it. Perhaps, if you are married, you have already gone to marriage counseling. If you are just boyfriend and girlfriend maybe you already tried couples counseling. Next thing you know you did this work to have a better relationship but the squabbles and fights came right back. The intimacy problems have returned. Maybe in your dating life you asked around for dating tips and tried some suggestions only to find the troubles didn't go away.

There are a few things to think about to see if saving a relationship like the one you are in is worth the trouble and work. Even while the struggles continue, if you are thinking about separating or even getting a divorce, you need to take a step back and look at things even more seriously, possibly also getting more professional relationship advice. It takes a lot of work to save a relationship but it is worth it most of the time. Although it can be really frustrating if the relationship love is not really there.

A good relationship with someone is one where the two people enjoy being with each other alone and are content with just that person being with them. Try writing a list of the people you enjoy being with and see if your partner is on it? Do you still go out and have fun with your partner on occasion? Can you see yourself enjoying time alone with them most of the time?

Spend some time to evaluate what you find important in a relationship to see if the relationship is worth saving. In a good relationship both partners usually feel they are understood by the other person. Do you listen to your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, or do you routinely barely hear what they say? On the other hand does your partner seem like they are listening to you.

Is your relationship one that makes you feel comfort when you have gone through something stressful? A relationship is supposed to be a place where you can go when you need comforted. If you seem to be looking elsewhere for comfort then you may have a problem, or be causing a problem. You should not be looking to find comfort ABOUT the relationship but be finding comfort IN the relationship. Relationships like that are worth saving.

Maybe there were some infidelity problems in your relationship. Not necessarily a full blown affair but the notion that your spouse or partner seriously flirts too much. These problems need to be addressed. Both you and your partner have to be able to trust each other if the relationship is going to be worth saving. If you can’t resolve a problem like this together than you may want to seek marriage or couples counseling.

In saving a relationship you need to ask hard questions and go through hard answers. There are many things to consider and splitting up should not be taken lightly. Soon you will be able to discover if saving a relationship like the one you are in is worth it.