Are you trying to get your boyfriend back? Has he ended your relationship and are you feeling terrible? Not only does your ego hurt but you are also lonely and sad. You are thinking that you want your ex back. If you are sure that this is what you want and not just the byproduct of feeling lonely then having a plan that will be successful may help you to feel better until you win back your ex.

Step One Is All About You.

You need to clear your head and rid yourself of negative thoughts. You need to be strong and put on a happy face. To do this, focus on your best qualities and do things to make those qualities stand out. Get busy with friends. Work harder at your job. Re-arrange your living room. Make the "new you" better than ever. Having a clear head and a positive outlook will make you more desirable and help you in winning back your ex.

Step Two Is About Acceptance And Letting Go.

If you and your ex do re-connect it will not be the same relationship as it once was. That one ended, so you wouldn't want it anyway. You must say goodbye to the way things were and embrace a new reality. This is the time to forgive and forget. Learn from your past mistakes and move on. Your ex won't want more of the same and you shouldn't either. Work on strengthening what was weak and solidifying what was good. In a sense you are accepting the break up in this step. Until you do that, you will remain stuck to your past.

Step Three Is All About Space.

As much as you want your man back, he might not feel that way right now. If you are pestering him or constantly looking for ways to see him or get together with him he will no doubt pull away. As much as you want to see him and feel the comfort that his smile brings, you must give him space. The best way to do this is to keep busy. This is where you friends come in. Get busy with a new social life. Take on extra projects at work. Begin an exercise program, start a new activity or hobby. Not only will you keep yourself busy but you will be making yourself better and more desirable to your ex! Once he has to miss you for a while he will begin wanting to see you. The new and improved you will not remind him of the one he left, you will remind him of the amazing girls friend he was dumb enough to let get away.

Step Four Is About Getting Your Groove On.

This is about appearance. Take a good look in the mirror and identify what you love most about your appearance. Then take steps to enhance those attributes. New makeup, a new hairstyle, a day at the spa, some new clothes are all ways you can update and improve your physical appearance. While you should never change your appearance for someone else, you can always make yourself look better. This is a good time to buy sexy lingerie and wear it every day. If you are feeling desirable on the inside it will emanate from you and you ex will notice it. The better you think you look, the better you WILL look. Winning back your ex will be much easier when you exude confidence.

Step Five Is All About Patience.

By this time, if your ex is thinking about coming back, he will be calling or attempting to make contact. Cheerfully accept some of his advances. Don't seem overly eager or he will think this new you is just a ploy to get him back. He needs to feel like he came up with the idea of getting back with you. Keep physical contact to a minimum. Let him know that you want to take it slow. This will drive him a bit crazy and you will have been successful in getting back with your ex!