If you have suffered a major breakup, you know how difficult it can be to resist your first impulses. You can make many mistakes that can harm your chances of getting your ex back. However, the biggest mistake you can make when you want to get your ex back is talking to him or her. What should you say to him or her? You may be surprised to know.

If you have been dumped and it was an unexpected breakup, your emotions will be running quite high. You can say all kinds of things in anger, most of which you probably never mean. Saying things like this can cause damage way beyond repair. By avoiding this, if you want him or her back, it is much easier to deal with without all the anger.

Relationship experts will often tell you to take a breather period from your ex but never tell you exactly how long you should be out of contact with your ex but honestly, a month long hiatus should work. It is enough time to let things settle down and any communication you choose to have will be much calmer. Do not break this rule. It can be easy to break this no communication rule through two ways. These include: drunken dialing and text message terrorism. If you really want your ex back, you really need to follow this crucial rule. By not doing this, you will fail to earn back the respect and the love of your ex.

Drunk Dialing - Although it can happen at any time, drunk dialing usually occurs in the late evening or overnight hours. It begins loneliness and sadness added with a few drinks. The alcohol begins to numb not only your pain but your senses. Those drinks will soon affect your judgment so things you normally wouldn’t do, you end up doing. Before you know it, you are calling your ex, either cussing him or her out or pleading for them to take you back. Honestly, it is rather embarrassing and when you sober up, you’ll never forgive yourself for the damage that is done.

Text Message Terrorism - Your immediate response following a breakup may be complete terror and panic. You’ll try anything to get your ex to change his or her mind. If you can’t stop them, then you may start calling through cell pones and email. If you constantly do this, then the chances of your driving your ex nuts and changing numbers and email address is great. Avoid this along with drunk dialing as well.

Both of these can be disastrous when you are trying to win your ex’s heart back. If you happen to notice yourself falling into these things, you can do well to avoid them in the first place.

Why is it important to keep away for a month? It’s a double reason actually. It keeps you from screwing up, lessening your chances of bringing him or back to you. It also allows you time to think and fix yourself. You can also plan out how you will get your ex back. It is human nature to screw up but a plan can help you overcome it.