All of you have been taught the basic skills such as reading, writing and perhaps even driving a car or riding a bike. But have you been taught how to fall in love and make the relationship work?

What is amazing is the fact that now-a-days people learn all the complicated things but remain unaware of simple things like learning the basics of relationship skills. Moreover, this simple thing is actually very important simply due to the fact that the number of singles and the divorces rates have gone up considerably in the last few years. All of us know misery is an accomplice of loneliness. And this is the exact reason why I would like to share some important factors with you. These factors are the four columns which shall support your love relationship and make it work. So here goes:

1. The path to growth and healing begins with being in a relationship. Your unconscious brings you in contact and there be attracted to someone who embodies both the good and the bad, the positive and the negative qualities much like those of your parents or guardians. This is not coincidental, but rather fate accompli. The relationship is the salve to heal your wounds from your distraught past and move on with life. You grow as your partner grows, from strength to strength and with each passing day the trust bond becomes stronger and stronger.

2. The ability to listen. You need learn how to ‘Listen’. You can tune your energies to listen to the voice of your emotions. One of the best ways to tune yourself to your emotional needs is to practice meditation. You should also practice breathing exercises. Another good way to enhance your ability to listen is to write a journal. Pen down your thoughts for the day. Bare yourself completely and write in all honestly about what made you sad and why and what made you happy and why. Once you have gained more clarity about the emotions you are experiencing, you shall discover that the control helps you communicate better with your partner. Make an agreement with your partner to actually listen to each other, even if you do not agree to each other’s point of view.

3. The art of accepting, acknowledging and appreciating. It’s important to communicate with each other as much as possible. Love and communication are very crucial to the health of your relationship. Accepting means just being human and not attempting to be perfect, always. Don’t try to change your partner. Love doesn’t grow where there is fear. So do not try to control your lover. And don’t forget to appreciate and acknowledge your partner’s deeds, big or small.

4. Your emotional bank balance. Love relationships are like bank accounts. The more your deposit the better your life will be. So build up on your savings of trust and honesty and watch your relationship gain in love and kindness and acceptance. However, when you treat your partner with disrespect or dishonesty then you are withdrawing from your savings of love and mutual respect.

Therefore it’s wise to say that relationships do not sustain themselves without nurturing and care. There are good times and bad in each relationship. So let these times be the true testing times and with each successful transition from problems to happiness, you shall strengthen the bond between each other.