Post the end of a relationship numerous women are faced with the dilemma of how to get their ex to return to them. Whether it was your fiance, lover, husband or boyfriend, the pain of losing the one you love can often be unbearable. Whether you decided to break up with him and are berating yourself for acting in haste or whether it was him who decided to walk away, either way, once you have decided about wanting him back, you need to be prepared to work hard in order to win him back.

Once you have made up your mind about working on how to get him back, you must start by realising that what makes women react sentimentally does not always hold much weight with men. Women and men are known to function differently even in the most identical of situations and what might succeed in helping a man win back his woman will probably backfire on a woman trying to get back her man. While women are open to discussion and reasoning and emotional reminders soon after the break up, no matter how bad a note things had ended on, men need a significant quantity of time and space to be left alone for some time before they can be expected to pass time interacting directly with their exes. Women in general are more open sentimentality and hence are easier to bring up emotional and awkward topics of discussion with. This is not to say that men are without feeling or that they do not care. The simple truth is that after a break up it takes a man time to understand what he has lost, actually realise that she is no longer around and then realise that without his woman his life is emptier and less bright and happy. So if you are serious about getting your ex back, you will have to simply come to terms with the situation and accept that he is no longer a pivotal part of your life, at least for now.

So, when he walks away or announce you that he requires his space, do not chase him or plead with him or try to make him see reason. As hard as it might be, what you need to do is accept his terms and walk away from the situation as well. This may seem highly unlikely, but actually, the first step to getting back your man lies in letting him go. If you agree to the separation in a calm and dignified manner, he will have no choice but to appreciate your maturity and will inevitably reconsider his own actions.

Even though it takes a lot of will power and strength, you must ensure that you do not chase your ex around. Calling him on the phone repeatedly or e-mailing him all the time will only frustrate him further and make him think of you as desperate and pestering.

But it is important that you let him know that you agree with the decision. The best step would be to either write him a brief letter or to send him a short and succinct message. Since it is a step that he won’t be expecting, it will make him think about you more. Also, he will be able to do so without the pressure of having to respond to you immediately so he is more likely to think of you in a positive light than he would if you are run after him.

Once you agree to his decisions, it will create an atmosphere of positive communication. He will regard you in a better light and will in all probability get in touch with you soon to talk cordially. He will be curios to see what changed your mind and if you are serene and unruffled, he will inevitably be impressed from your moves.

Also, the old rule about playing hard to get is very important. It will make you look a little inaccessible and your ex lover will find you much more attractive when he realises that he cannot have his every wish fulfilled and he will work harder to get your attention.

The main thing is that you must not give up halfway if your ex starts showing signs of wanting to come back. It is important for you to stick to your plan for it to deliver the goods.