There are a few men who prefer to have a wife led relationship. For those men it is exhilarating to have the wife be in complete control of the relationship and the dominate person. This runs the gamut from letting the wife make most of the decisions to letting her have complete control and being submissive to her. Not all of the men who want a wife led relationship like to be truly submissive but merely prefer a lesser role in the marriage.

To what degree you end up in a wife led relationship of your own choosing is based on both of your preferences. You may simply let your wife do the checkbook and handle the most major financial decisions. You will have to discuss it with your wife because it could become a burden if she really does not want the largest share of the control in the marriage.

Rather than feeling like she’s lucky to have control, she might feel that you are pushing off unpleasant decisions and jobs onto her. Be sure to balance it by taking over things that she doesn’t like to do. This type of marriage is wife led in the sense that she has the major amount of control, but not all of it.

A popular fantasy for many men, who don’t have it, is to have a truly wife led relationship. They become quite submissive to the wife in everything. They do the chores and anything else she asks him to do. Serving their wife in this way pleases them a great deal.

The submissiveness even carries over to their sex lives. In fact, that’s the big appeal for many men in having this type of relationship. They secretly want to be dominated sexually, and the rest just adds to that appeal. The psychological reason for this may vary but there certainly is no harm in it if both partners communicate what it is they want, and both agree.

In a true wife led relationship, the man knows that his wife has authority over him. He does the chores and tries to anticipate her every need. She doesn’t thank him, but may tell him he’s doing a good job. When it comes to sex, the man is only allowed as much pleasure as the woman feels like letting him have. Not allowing him to have an orgasm, or delaying it, is something these men find enjoyable

A relationship of this type is not for everyone, but many men feel happiest when their wife has control. And while it might sound like the woman has it made in a wife led relationship, it’s not always easy for her either. If a woman has been raised believing in the typical roles of husband and wife, suddenly being asked to take charge of everything can be daunting. Granted, the housework and other chores will probably be done by the man, but the handling of the big decisions, finances and other things might be a new experience.

Many women enjoy it for awhile but get tired of it. However if the man really wants that kind of life there may have to be compromises. Perhaps there can be certain days where the wife takes control but on other days the man takes control.

If you want this kind of life with your wife but aren’t sure how to discuss it with her, try writing your feelings and wants down, and then discuss them with her. You could also simply begin allowing her to lead the relationship gradually and later asking her if it is something she likes.