Break-ups can be really devastating and extremely painful. When an important person is no longer part of your life or suddenly leaves, it is very normal to want them back. Sometimes we even end up doing everything just for the person to stay. However, because of this desire it often compromises the other person’s self-respect especially when they do things out of desperation which are not supposed to be done in the first place. On the other hand, there are ways to get your ex back without risking self respect. Let me discuss them step by step.

• The first step to get your ex back is to pour your heart out for his loss. In order to start healing, you need to go through all the grieving process until you are fully exhausted. Accept the reality that the relationship is over and that he is out of your life. It is normal to feel a mixture of emotions at this stage. Whatever you are feeling, acknowledge it and let it all out. The only person that you cannot lie to is yourself, so be honest and accept the painful fact that he may no longer be there for you.

• Once that you have exhausted all your pent-up emotions inside, this will be the time that you are more calm. At this point, reflect back on what went wrong with the relationship. Analyze and think what could be the root cause of the break-up. Take note that this is very important if you want to get your ex back because if you finally kiss and make up this will be your basis on how to make things right this time.

• Once you were able to pinpoint the root cause, think of ways on how to solve the issue and that you have considered both parts. In other words, think of ways on how to solve the issue by both of you meeting in between. To get your ex back you need to think of a fair method in coming up with a solution. This is the fairest way of trying to resolve an issue. If you cannot agree on something then think of ways where you can meet in between.

• If you were the one who decided to break the relationship, then chances are, you have stepped on his pride and self-esteem. Pride is important for men, and with pride comes self-esteem. So think of ways on how you can rebuild his confidence. Sometimes we say things that we do not really mean in the heat of anger and 75% of break-ups are caused by this. If this is your case, then saying you are sorry and admitting that you did not really mean it will pump up his self esteem back. Make sure to explain your case and this time talk things out in a calm and peaceful manner. Remember that the key to a successful relationship is honesty and open communication. Share how you feel to him and let him share how he feels as well. Then draw up a plan and a resolution. This should be the start of something new, so make it a wonderful beginning. Follow these tips and you can surely get your ex back.