Did your ex girlfriend break up with you and now you want to know how to get your ex lover back? It's been days and you can't get her off your mind especially the look on her face when she said it's over. If you've been in a number of relationships, maybe by now you've realized that sometimes women don't mean what they say. I'm guilty of that!

Before I give you everything I've got, let me show you a few psychological tricks that will put you on the right track and, also, prove to you that this stuff it's worth taking a look at...

One effective tactic is to make your ex feel as if they were the one that was dumped. How do you do that? Well, it involves thinking the opposite and doing the exact opposite of what you want to do right now and that is to let your ex go.

Accept that fact that your relationship is over for the time being, respect your ex's decision in regards to the break up no matter how much it may kill you to say it.

Even if you feel like fighting, try to stop yourself from getting into further arguments with your ex girlfriend. Girls don't see anything constructive in arguments. They usually think matters are taking a turn for the worse when there is an argument. This is not a good signal to send to your ex girlfriend especially when you want to win her back into your life.

It's about control. We all have a deep need for a sense of control and if we lose it we will ALWAYS act to get it back. Your ex girlfriend is not immune to this.

Without being smart or malicious - you need to make your ex girlfriend feel as if she is losing her sense of control. The way to do that is to confuse her by being unpredictable. Surprise her in ways that are important to her (remember the clues?) and she will be forced to stop, and figure out what happened just to retain that feeling of being in control and understand what is going on.

In order to get your ex girlfriend back, it would help if you also tried to get your own life back on track. Rather than sitting around the house and feeling sorry for yourself, start living life again. Have a few nights out with your friends, start working-out and you could even think of taking up a new hobby. Don't worry, i'm asking you to forget your ex and move on. It's just that if you can turn yourself into that strong, confident and independent man, you stand a far better chance of getting your girlfriend back!