"My husband wishes for a divorce"; that is a hard fact you have to accept regardless of whether you like it or not. Yet, it doesn't have to ended that way. Here's six questions you should consider to help you save your crumbling marriage.

Before the darkness of the night puts her into pensive mood, she looks at the ring around her finger. It was right there at the porch where he proposed to her. No, it wasn’t like the movies. He brought nothing else to make the ambiance more romantic but still, she found it the sweetest thing he had done for her. But as she stares at the ring again, a teardrop falls onto her hand. They’ve had big fights recently. Musing on his gestures, justifications and preferences, she concludes, "My husband wants a divorce."

Giving in to separation seems to be the easiest way out. But a wife who values the sacrament of matrimony will ask herself how she can satisfy her husband in different ways. In evaluating her role in their union, she must answer the questions stated below.

Do you thank him for addressing your family’s needs?

Men’s role in our society centers on providing for their families. Centuries ago, they go hunting in the forest and bring food for their families. Presently, with our gender fair programs, it may not be as emphasized as before but still, they would like to attain that feeling of accomplishment and pride for attending to the needs of his loved ones.

Do you give him enough silence?

Women tend to talk much more than men. When they are strained, confused or contemplative, they need minutes to think by themselves. Though this makes them difficult to figure out, they consider the quiet time golden. If he doesn’t feel like chatting, don’t force him. Though he isn’t verbally communicating, he is still thinking.

Do you directly say what you want?

Another difference between men and women is how they convey their message. The former are straightforward while the latter beat around the bush. This unlikeness causes serious arguments and worse, it makes some wives say, "My husband wants a divorce." Refrain from making long introductions or from letting him read between the lines always. Cut your introductions short and don’t let him decipher your coded words. As much as you can, don’t be ambiguous. You can still do it with tact.

Do you sometimes make the first move in lovemaking?

Let’s face the fact that sex is important for men. Women who are boring in bed disappoint them. If you are too tired to make love, all you have to do is explain and be understood. Moreover, men don’t want to be in the driving seat always. They want their partners to do their share of first moves as well. By the way, men love sexy underwear.

Do you let him hang out with his friends?

Like women, men need the company of friends. Talking about sports, cars, art and current events over some bottles of booze makes them realize there is a world outside their home. Don’t get easily jealous with the time he spends with his friends. Otherwise, he’ll think you want to control his life.

Do you make yourself appealing for him?

After working hard at the office, your husband wouldn’t want to see his wife in ugly clothes. Men treat their partners as their ultimate trophy so make yourself presentable. However, don’t get too obsessed with your looks as it turns them off. Just practice proper hygiene, buy clothes that fit you well and make yourself appealing to him.

If you’re a wife who’s caught up with a my-husband-wants-a-divorce issue, try to answer these questions and from your answers, generate ideas on how to save your marriage from your end. Discuss it with him. Ask for apology if you have habits that get into his nerves. If your husband truly cares for you, he will understand you don’t want to end your relationship. Expectedly, he must meet you halfway. Love is not a one-way street after all.