Something happened yesterday which reminded me of how easy it is for us to get our priorities the wrong way round. I noticed an order made on my website for a golf mind training hypnosis download. Then I saw that this same person came back six hours later and ordered two more hypnosis downloads - one entitled "re-generate love in your relationship" and the other titled "getting over a broken relationship".

Two thoughts immediately sprang to mind. The first was that this person put his golf before his relationship. (Now, I'm holding my hands up here to admit that this is an assumption of mine and based on very tenuous information, but it triggered in me the observation that many people do put their hobby first in their life and their relationship last...and still more put their work first and relationship last.) The second was that he was betting on both sides with his later order; his choice of hypnosis downloads indicated that he did not know which way to turn - get over his relationship or try again with his relationship.

It may seem to many that purchasing both downloads was sensible, that he could deal with his situation no matter the eventuality. To me though, I saw a red flag waving in my mind; this person has no clear intent, he has made no clear decision, and if his thoughts are going this way and then that, so too will his behavior. He will be acting first hot and then cold, for want of a better expression. And his partner will wonder what on earth is going on. BOTH parties end up confused…and frustrated, which does not bode well for the relationship. The expression "being in two minds" can be clearly seen.

It is easy for an outsider to proffer advice. The person in question needs to take a step back, and see things from every angle and then to make a choice. The good news is that he has chosen hypnosis. This is great; In fact, it is the best thing he could have done. Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, and so he will be able to change state, he will be able to step back from his emotions and then he will be able to think clearly. To be able to do this is massively important. (His hypnosis download choice indicated that he could not think clearly, he could not think straight.)

Now, what I'm hoping is that he will firstly choose to play "regenerate love in your relationship". Why so? Because if you're in two minds about a relationship, it's worth a try. Why throw something away which could still work? Why not give it 150% and then you know, either way, that you have given it your best shot? If it works, that's fantastic; you're happy. If it doesn't work then you know, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that this relationship was not for you. Either way, you win. If you didn't give it this chance, you would always wonder "what if...?" and that is not a good feeling to have niggling away at the back of your mind. And, if it doesn't work it is easy to move on, seeing as you now know it could never work. Win, win!

There is one proviso; if you are going to focus on regenerating love in your relationship, focus properly, and give it 150%. Your determination and your commitment WILL be reflected in the results. If you give it a "half-hearted" attempt, the result will be just that. You cannot make a silk purse out of a sow's ear, as my mother would say. You create your own reality through your own beliefs, expectations and commitment.

Hypnosis is a great way in which you can get your conscious and subconscious minds working together, to gain clear focus and alignment within your mind. You can get your logical and your emotional minds working together also. If you wish something to work out for you it is essential to make a whole-hearted effort and hypnosis is what makes this possible. You can, with the help of hypnosis downloads, learn to focus your mind, fully and completely, upon what you want.

This leads me back to the very beginning; if you put your golf first and relationship second, don't be surprised if your partner feels disgruntled or walks out on you! Life does give back what you put in...and with the help of hypnosis downloads you can learn to focus clearly and magnetize what you want to happen into your reality.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for relationship issues.