The actual divorce process is controlled by the participants. Many people do not realize that not all divorces must end in contested courtroom proceeding.

Generally, once you have embarked on a contested divorce process, the types of proceedings from State to State are similar, but not identical. You should consult with a lawyer in your State about the specific process.

The length of your case may depend on the state and county that your case is filed in. It often depends on how crowded the court docket may be and often may take a year or more. If contested to trial.

JURISDICTION

Before a divorce is filed, you must determine where the matter will be heard. Different states have different rules for bestowing jurisdiction. In many states, a party must have lived in that state for 180 days prior to filing. If there are two possible jurisdictions, it may benefit the party filing to serve the Divorce documents first to choose jurisdiction in their state. That is the primary benefit of serving and filing first. There is little benefit to serving and filing first other than to prepare in advance and to choose the jurisdiction.

SUMMONS & PETITION

A divorce case is usually commenced by serving on the other party a Summons and Petition for Divorce or Legal Separation. In some states, a divorce is also called a Dissolution of Marriage. The only significant difference between a divorce and a legal separation is that in a legal separation, the marriage is not dissolve. All other issues related to custody, parenting time, child support and property may be resolved just like a divorce.

Service in most states must be complete by actually personally serving the other party or a person who resides in their home who is considered to be of suitable age and maturity,. In most states, a party may not serve their own divorce papers.

The Summons is a generally document announcing that a divorce or legal separation action is being commenced. In some states, that document also indicates that from that point forward neither party may dispose of marital assets, change insurance coverage or modify any other significant holdings except for the necessities of life.

The Petition has two parts. The first part is a statement of facts which sets out basic facts such as the identities of the parties, whether they have children and what assets they may hold. The second part of the Petition seeks relief such as an award of custody, spousal maintenance or child support and a division of assets and debts. The Petition is often tailored to seek the maximum relief. It is a positioning paper that will often seek as much relief as the proponent could possibly seek.

ANSWER AND COUNTER PETITION

The opposing party has thirty (30) days in most states to submit an answer to the petition. The Answer is very simply the opposing parties statement of facts and their request for relief. Often the service of an Answer is waived. This is often done to save the parties the cost of an additional filing fee should the matter be settled. However, if a waiver or extension is not granted by the opposing party and an answer is not filed within thirty (30) Days, the original party ay seek a default. A default means that the original moving party may request the relief requested in their petition without opposition. Late answers are often accepted since Courts prefer determining cases on their merits rather than by default.

TEMPORARY HEARINGS

A temporary hearing may also be called a Pendente Lite Hearing. Such hearings may be scheduled by either party by filing a Motion supported by an affidavit. Temporary/Pendente Lite hearings are designed to resolve issues while the divorce is pending such as who will have:

• Temporary custody

• Temporary support and/or maintenance

• Where the parties are going to reside

pending the resolution of the case

• Protection from harassment and domestic violence

• Injunctions against financial improprieties

• Use of assets

Courts generally, have a great deal of latitude in resolving these temporary issues. In most states, temporary hearings should not affect the final outcome. However, from a practical perspective, temporary hearings can be very important since Courts often favor a policy of maintaining the status quo.

Temporary orders may be changed if there is a substantial change in circumstance during the pendency of the divorce to make the change in the temporary order necessary. Issues that often arise may be that the debt on an asset (such as a mortgage) is not being paid requiring immediate actions such as a change in occupancy of the homestead or a sale of an asset before the

divorce is final.

MEDIATION

Many courts require the parties to attempt to mediate their disputes before the matter is submitted to the Court. One exception to this rule may be where domestic abuse has occurred. Mediation may occur between the parties of with attorneys present.

Mediation means that the parties visit with a qualified neutral who will attempt to get them to resolve their differences. In mediation, the neutral is not an advocate and sill not provide legal advise.

Most discussions that occur in mediation are not admissible in Court under the public policy consideration that favors a free exchange of information between the parties to help them resolve their differences.

CO-PARENTING CLASSES

Many states have adopted a policy that requires parents to attend co-parenting classes where children are involved. The goal is to teach parents how to minimize the impact of children involve in a divorce. In most cases, the parents need not attend together.

Some states also require that children of a certain age attend a class to teach them the skills to deal with divorcing parents. This is not embraced in all states and is primarily found in Northern states.

ADVANCE CASE REVIEW

Many states have a hearing that is called an advance case review or early case resolution meeting or Case Management Conference. In such a hearing, the parties meet with the Judge assigned to the case or a referee to discuss the issues, or what discovery may be necessary. This is the parties first chance to resolve the case or portion of the case.

DISCOVERY

Discovery refers to the "investigation" phase of the case. It is primarily dedicated to identifying the contested issues, a determination of assets, income and debt of the parties. This exchange of information can be conducted informally with eth parties agreeing to freely exchange the information or formally, through the submission of formal documents that require answers under oath.

Interrogatories.

Interrogatories refer to a form of discovery where written questions are submitted to the opposing party to a lawsuit. These questions must be answered in writing under oath or under penalty of perjury within a specified time (usually 30 days). Objections may be made to questions that are overbroad or unlikely to lead to admissible evidence. Most states limit the number of interrogatories that may be asked without the court's permission to keep the questions from being a means of oppression rather than a source of information.

Document Requests

A request for production is another part of the discovery process. Either party may send a request to an opposing party or witness for relevant documents related to the proceeding. You may wish to review our list of Documents that may be relevant to your case. Generally, documents requests require that the party served provide any and all documents requested that they have in their possession within a specified period of time (usually 30 days). If you do not possess the documents requested, you do not have to acquire them if it is not easy to do so. The opposing counsel may acquire those documents through other remedies such as subpoena or by having a party sign a Release of Information.

Releases of Information

The opposing party may send a release of Information to the other party seeking to acquire documents from a third party that is relevant to the case. Ian example of documents that may be requested include bank statements, medical records, financial records, work schedules and income information.

Requests for Admissions

Either party may submit to the other a Request for Admission seeking Admissions on certain facts relevant to the proceeding. Much like interrogatories and document requests, the responses must be returned within a specified period of time and must be made under oath (notarized).

Depositions

A deposition can be a more expensive form of discovery. It allows a party to subpoena and depose any individuals who may have information relevant to the case. This includes parties and non-parties alike. In a deposition, the party being deposed appears at the attorney’s office or a neutral location to answer questions put by the other side's attorney regarding the facts of the case. Depositions are under oath with a court reporter present so that everything that is said is recorded. A deposition is scheduled to pin a witness down to certain facts and to discover all possible documents and witnesses related to a case.

FAILURES PROVIDE DISCOVERY

The penalties related to a failure to respond to discovery or to appear at a deposition may be severe. The opposing party may file a Motion to Compel discovery and/or seek sanctions related to that failure. Severe sanctions may include establishing facts related to a case. That means that the Court disallows an opposing party from presenting an evidence or testimony at trial to contest an issue where discovery was not provided. Default is the most severe sanction where the Court allows a party to proceed as if the entire case or any individual issue is uncontested. The Court may also award attorney’s fees to the party that submitted the unanswered discovery.

If you require additional time to respond to discovery, you should request the same in writing including a specific timeline when it can be completed.

EXPERTS

Experts are often employed to determine certain facts. Those experts may be jointly agreed upon by the parties, which can save on the cost of having individual experts testify at trial. However, where that is not possible, each side may hire an expert to contest an issue and require their testimony at trial. Common experts include:

• custody evaluators

• financial planners to determine future economic circumstances

• business evaluators to value businesses

• real estate appraisers to value real estate

• personal property appraiser to value furnishings and other assets (generally an auctioneer experience d in home goods)

• vocational evaluator to determine earning capacity

• psychologists to testify to mental health issues

SETTLEMENT

A divorce or legal separation case may be resolved at any time the parties come to an agreement on the issues. In such cases, the parties would sign a Marital Settlement Agreement or some other form of stipulation resolving their issues. This can occur right up to the point of trial.

SETTLEMENT CONFERENCE/PRETRIAL

Settlement or pretrial conferences are schedule by the Court. In such conferences, the Court may require each party to submit a pretrial statement of the case and issues. In such hearings, the Judge will meet with the lawyers and/or parties to discuss the issues and to make settlement recommendations. This is a gentle form of arm twisting to :

1.   Try to resolve outstanding issues; or 
   

2.   Set issues that will be contested at trial and may include timelines for exchanging information, exhibits and witness lists.  
   

TRIAL

If you are unable to settle your case with your spouse, it will go to trial. Some states have a trial by jury. Other states have a trail to Judge. At trial you each tell your story to the judge. It is told through your testimony, the testimony of other witnesses, and documents called exhibits. st trial, the moving party (usually called the petitioner or plaintiff) presents their case first. The call their witnesses who are subject to cross-examination by the opposing party. When the plaintiff or petitioner rests their case, the Respondent or Defendant presents their own case with witnesses and evidence, each subject to cross examination by the opposing party.

Appeals

After a divorce, either party has a right to an appeal if they disagree with e Judge’s ruling. The timelines for appeal are severely limited. As a result, you should consult with a lawyer in your state regarding those timelines.

Modification

Whether the issues in your divorce are settled by you and your spouse or are decided by a judge, some things in your judgment can be modified (changed) by a judge after a hearing. Usually, child support, alimony, child custody, and child visitation can be modified, but only if one of you can show that there has been a change in circumstances.

Enforcement

If you or your spouse disobeys an order that the court makes in your divorce judgment, you may file a Motion to compel compliance. Such motions are generally for contempt and require the service of an Order to Show Cause and a Motion.